Loss Of Love
People may think that I am writing this blog because of a breakup. Let me clear out this first that this is nothing to do with that.
Firstly I do not understand what is Love?
My guess “Attachment with someone is called Love. Attachment could be with Mother, father, another girl/boy or even with an animal.”
The feelings or emotions which get developed due to this attachment is called “Love”.
I may be wrong as I know there are thousands of experts sitting here, but this is completely my opinion.
Love is something which stops you from thinking what is wrong and what is right. You just go in a flow like walking on a water stream without realizing that you may fall. You tend to do things which may be wrong from a third person point of view, wrong from society point of view, but still you can’t control yourself and go ahead and do what your heart wishes to. It is a feeling in which you wish to do everything for opposite person without even thinking twice. You forget the hardships involved and just try to make your loved one elated.
Love starts with eagerness to know a person very well. Eagerness to come closer, know the person better. Let it be called as “Friendship”. There is a very thin line between a close friend and a loved friend(Lover).
You don’t know when you were a close friend and when you entered the deeper zone of the opposite person and started loving him/her more than as a friend.
One of the darker side of initial phase of a budding relationship is that people generally get too much involved with their loved ones that they start getting sidelined by other good friends or even family members sometimes.They enter in a different zone in which they see only their loved person in a complete different world and wish to live together. Agreed that this happen in starting phase of their relationship and generally they improve on this factor as their relationship gets matured. Hats off to people who are successful in making everyone happy in this phase too.
As the relationship dwells, people get so much habituated to each other that they start thinking, they cannot imagine their life without their loved one. They see each other in their day to day small activities. Imagining their life without other looks impossible. May be this is even right!!! But I believe that time is the best healer. As days pass people get accustomed to live without other person and slowly move on with their life. Of course when they break up, they have a tough time realizing the hard fact that the person who he/she loved is no more with him/her. Now he has left his (birth)right to posses her. These hard facts make the breakup phase very tough. But, yes!! Here comes the king of all problems…”Time”.. It “againnnnn” heals all “wounds”.
Love starts with emotions and agreed that it takes physical form later in most of the cases. The latter part adds cement to layers of bricks. . Bricks are pillars of each relationship and cement strengthens the bond!!!
Cannot call it wrong, but ya….it’s a taboo in Indian society.
Loss of love may be due to many reasons.
1) Generally it is due to realization of some hard facts about their lovers which was kept in dark from long time.
2) Taking decision to be together very early without giving too much time for the relationship to dwell.
3) Family pressure to call the relation off. This again may be due to caste/religion mismatch, two families having old differences and can’t accept the fact of mingling.
Love is a freedom to go in a world with no one else and only you two. You commit mistakes, you learn in a hard way. You look back and say “what if I committed mistake, I enjoyed that moment though”.
Sometimes Love doesn’t name the relationship. Due to society pressure, relationship doesn’t come out in light. Couples flock together hiding from wild beasts and enjoy every moment of togetherness. I don’t know it is right or wrong, who am I to say it. I believe that things done with “Emotions” should not be named wrong. Be it wrong for outsiders, but not when looked from the two people’s point of view. Even though they “may” regret it later, but at least they enjoyed/experienced a good time spent together.
I do not know what’s in my mind when I am writing this.I do not have any purpose with which I am writing it, but yes this is a platform where I speak out my heart, which of course makes me happy.